January 26, 2021

Believing TRUTH about your body

I used to think so negatively about my body. I had a hard time believing what was actually TRUE about my body and honestly, I didn’t even know what that TRUTH actually was! But now I can say that I have more positive thoughts than anything. And it wasn’t because I finally reached my goal or reached a certain clothes size or whatever. 

And you have to realize that this is exactly how it will work….your negative and damaging thoughts will not miraculously disappear the moment you reach your goals. In order for you to overcome negative beliefs and learn to love your body, you must start with deeply believing TRUTH about your body.

She didn't believe the TRUTH about her body

I once had a client I worked with that genuinely disliked her body. She was a lovely meso-ectomorph, with slender yet muscular arms and legs and a trim figure. I trained her hard, she worked her tail off for me and absolutely loved the challenge of high level workouts. But, underneath it all, I could tell she just somehow really hated her body. 

 

She was never satisfied or content. She never had the ability to press pause for a week and be ok with taking some days off. She constantly panicked about splurging because it felt like every splurge she ate was dragging her away from the body she craved. 

 

It didn’t matter what workouts we did, the meal plan I had her on… none of it. The fact was that she didn’t like her body and she didn’t believe the TRUTH about her body. And because of that, nothing was ever enough. 

 

And honestly, I know that deep down, that’s what she was really hoping for… the ability to be at peace in her skin and finally be content, grateful, and actually like her body. 

 

Perhaps you feel the same way.

The 3 Big Negative Thought Patterns

I’m going to tell you this so that you can spot it.

  1. Your body does not meet the beauty standards, therefore your body (and you!) are less desirable than others. 
  • These negative thoughts are about how your body looks. Your aesthetics. The way clothes look on you. How you look naked. 

 

  1. Your body does not meet the standards of how a body is supposed to function or work. 
  • This is different than aesthetics. This is about how your body operates. (Weak, injured, scarred, broken in some way, allergic.) 

 

  1. Your body used to be so much better. 
  • This one taps into both the first two negative thought patterns, but it also includes the aspect of self-comparison. 
  • The self-loathing comes from thinking about how our bodies used to look or used to function. 

 

There may be more negative thoughts about your body that creep up than the ones I’ve listed here, and I’d love to hear your story if you have one that you think falls into a different category. But I think, for the most part…our self-critiquing usually follows one of these lines of thinking. 

 

And honestly, these negative thought patterns are not exclusive. You can certainly be thinking ALL three of these. 

 

So the big question then is this:

 

How can you move past these negative thoughts and become a person that actually has far more positive things to say about their body than negative. How can you finally become somebody that actually likes their body?  We are going to be thorough with this, and I’m going to give you 9 action steps that will help change your thought patterns.

Start with words of TRUTH

You know that when left to your own devices, you speak negatively and your thinking is flawed, so look outside of yourself for truth and confirmation. 

  • What does God say about your body? He says it was not an accident or an overthought. It says in Psalm 139:14 that we are “fearfully and wonderfully made and His works are wonderful”. It also says in Psalm 119:73 “Your hands made me and formed me; give me the understanding to learn your commands.” And then in Isaiah 44:24 it says “This is what the LORD says— your Redeemer, who formed you in the womb: I am the LORD, the Maker of all things, who stretches out the heavens, who spread out the earth by myself,”
  • Who does He say that you are, your true identity? 
    • Deuteronomy 7:6 says “The LORD your God has chosen you out of all the peoples on the face of the earth to be his people, his treasured possession.”
    • Galatians 4:7 says, “So you are no longer a slave, but God’s child; and since you are his child, God has made you also an heir.”
  • There is no beauty standard.

Recognize when you are thinking too much about yourself

Remember, that true humility is thinking about yourself less, not thinking less or low about yourself. 

  • Philippians 2:3-4 instructs us to “Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.”
  • The more we entertain negative thoughts, the less capacity we have for thinking about Jesus and others. (And boy, does the enemy want THAT!) 
  • Keep your eyes fixed on Jesus, NOT on yourself.

Practice flipping the script

Catch your thoughts and say “yeah, but” in a positive way. 

  • “I’m still overweight, yeah, but I am incredibly strong and feel like I am consistently making healthy choices for the first time in my life.

Notice small victories and progress and celebrate the heck out of them

  • We have a tendency to refuse to celebrate until we reach our big goals. 
    • I just received an email from one of the participants in my jumpstart30 program, and she was feeling super discouraged. After just the first week, she had already missed 30% of the tasks. 
    • But I spent time showing here that she actually had completed 70% of the tasks, which is a remarkable achievement and completion rate! 
  • Have you managed to change one habit for the better? Celebrate. Are you able to lift 10 pounds now instead of 8? Celebrate. Did you show up 3 times this week, when last week we you only showed up twice? Celebrate. 
  • If all you’re thinking about is the negatives, and you’re never celebrating the awesome stuff that is actually happening, because I know they are, then you’re always going to feel defeated and dwelling in a negative state. Become someone that’s constantly celebrating and rejoicing!!

Keep your eyes forward

Don’t look to the side at other people and their bodies. And don’t look behind you at the body you once had. 

  • When you compare yourself to others, it will always rob you of your joy. Comparison never ever leads to anything good. 
  • I always say, “keep your blinders on”. It’s a horse analogy that makes so much sense!

Be proactive and take charge to find solutions for ways that your body is not functioning optimally

  • We can wallow in self-pity when sometimes the solutions are just waiting for us. 
  • If you’re frustrated and discouraged because you’re dealing with an injury or pain, then go see a PT or a massage therapist or get yourself connected with a good exercise program that can help you get past the pain. 
  • There are so many women in my online coaching program or in JS30 that finally feel like their body is working the way it was meant to… no more nagging pain, no more non-existent core muscles, nor more fear that an injury is about to happen at any given moment. 
  • These moms got proactive about their fitness and have put in the work to change the way their bodies operate, and the rewards are incredible. 
  • So, if your negative thoughts are all about wishing your body was stronger and worked better, do something about it! It’s not going to do it on its own.

Start to compliment others

This goes back to getting your eyes off of yourself. I remember when I was the most self-critical, I was also extremely judgmental of other people’s bodies. I was just hyper-aware of bodies and things that were so-called less than ideal. 

  • But now, I practice seeing the beauty in other people’s bodies, no matter their size, shape or capacity, and I really believe that that attitude impacts the way I think about my own body. 
  • The second commandment that Jesus gave us was to love our neighbor as we love ourselves. 
  • I don’t want to obey Jesus’ command and end up loving those around in me in a hyper-critical, judgmental, and negative way.   
    • But unfortunately, if we are extremely self-loathing and hypercritical of our own bodies, and the way we love ourselves is less than ideal…guess what, this is probably going to affect the way we will love other people.

Practice receiving compliments and BELIEVING them

  • If someone notices something about your body and compliments you, say “thank you! I appreciate that you said that!” 
    • No “yeah, buts”. No sheepish self-critiques in the moment.

Take your thoughts captive

Constantly be running your thoughts through a filter to decide if you’re going to sit and entertain it or kick it out the door. 

  • 2 Corinthians 10:3-5 says “For though we live in the world, we do not wage war as the world does. The weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.”
    • Memorize this. Let this be your mantra, your own personal manifesto. You're going to see this verse come up again on next week’s episode. So good!
  • Refuse to let yourself continue to be a victim to negative thoughts, which are strongholds and arguments and pretensions that butt up against the knowledge of God. 
  • Take every one of these thoughts captive…hold them hostage. These negative, untruthful thoughts have no power over you. You are free.

I used to think so negatively about my body. I had a hard time believing what was actually TRUE about my body and didn’t even know what that actually was! But now I can honestly say that I have more positive thoughts than anything. And it wasn’t because I finally reached my goal or reached a certain clothes size or whatever. 

 

And you have to realize that this is exactly how it will work….your negative and damaging thoughts will not miraculously disappear the moment you reach your goals. They’ll just change shape somehow. 

 

I can honestly say that I like my body because I am constantly taking negative thoughts captive, replacing them with truth, receiving compliments, rejoicing over little victories, and I’m abiding in the eternal love of a Father that created me with such special care and precision. 

As the client, I used to train that was never content in her body, no matter what progress we achieved. 

 

I can honestly say that I like my body because I am constantly taking negative thoughts captive, replacing them with truth, receiving compliments, rejoicing over little victories, and I’m abiding in the eternal love of a Father that created me with such special care and precision. 

 

And that is my deepest hope and prayer for you this week, friend. Listen to this again if you need to. Take notes. Memorize the verses. This is a battlefield that requires action and grit. But you’ve got this!

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